CRISIS OF CONFIDENCE IN COMPETENCE

     I’ve been around for over sixty years and realize, pondering the state of the world today, that my confidence in the foundations of government institutions grew for the first half of those years and has eroded steadily ever since.  This week’s calamity in Israel has ended my sense that someone, somewhere, is still on the job and competent.

     The mid-1950’s were a cheery time to be born in America, particularly if one were Caucasian.  The Second World War had recently ended and was fought and won for a just cause, the economy seemed boundless, and technologies were transforming everyday life for the good, e.g., appliances for the kitchen and laundry, dependable and safe cars, cheap consumer goods aplenty.

     The first president in my consciousness was Kennedy, handsome and young, eloquent in speech and bearing.  His assassination hinted at some insanity beneath society’s surface, but the new president was sworn in, institutions held strong, and, surprisingly, Lyndon Johnson succeeded beyond expectations in realms like civil rights and poverty reduction. 

     The 1960’s ended with turmoil, more assassinations, and the venal-seeming (to my family, at least) Nixon in charge.  But when he met his Waterloo at Watergate, once again, the institutions performed.  Public hearings illuminated what had happened, his own political party eventually agreed he’d behaved unacceptably and Nixon, hardly a paragon of virtue, resigned from office rather than drag the country through the trauma of his impeachment.

     In Israel, a country I admired in parallel with our own, the Six-Day War of 1967 bolstered my sense of security and pride.  Even a small democracy, given enough technology and motivation, could defend itself and even defeat much larger enemies.  I could check Israel off the list of places to worry about.  They had the smartest army in the world.  They had the Mossad, the world’s preeminent security service!

                                                            *****

     Repeated oil shocks shook the foundation of America’s economy in the mid-late 1970’s.  Yes, we had “malaise,” but no one thought the country would not survive.  We were still “The United States of America,” not some third-world backwater.  In 1980, the sunnily disposed Ronald Reagan became president and everyone seemed happy again.  His Trojan Horse containing ultra-conservative policies served with a smile, the real estate and stock markets boomed, and “happy days were here again,” as they say.  Again, the party was interrupted by a market crash in 1987 and a few recessionary years thereafter, but did I fear for the country?  Not at all.  If one is middle class and educated, like me, why worry about some inequality-inducing tax cuts and the promise of “trickle down” to mollify the masses?

     My personal second half arrived with the new millennium.  Again, new technologies, this time primarily in computing, were making life easier or, at least, more “connected.”  Though stocks and real estate still had their periodic crashes and slow recoveries, it was a fine time to be raising children in suburbia.  Life consisted of a great marriage, great kids, and lots and lots of soccer games.  Who had time to worry?  Sure, the Supreme Court probably stole the 2000 election, a hint of what was to come.  However, Al Gore and his party chose not to continue to fight, again “for the good of the country.”

     Alas, my mental comfort zone was cleaved on September 11, 2001.  First, the sense that oceans prevented an attack on American soil, which I’d internalized since around third grade, was pierced.  Second, even worse, our government and its panoply of security operatives, failed to “connect the dots.”  There was a total failure, followed by an overreaction that landed us in a twenty-year quagmire, just what I thought we’d learned to avoid from the Vietnam experience.

     We muddled along to survive the Bush years, humiliated ourselves with torturing POWs, and even entered “The Great Recession,” a seeming mandatory end to Republican administrations presided over by amiable dunces.   Obama won in 2008 against a decent human being, John McCain (though insanity to come was let out of Pandora’s Box in the form of his running mate, Palin, the apotheosis of willful ignorance in politics as a virtue), and America’s march to progress SEEMED to be on the move again.

     Within a year, however, the Koch-funded “Tea Party” began its racist and nihilistic campaign and the country began to fracture.  For the first time, I became acutely aware of the political leanings of neighbors and friends.  It immediately seemed like ancient history when, during the first fifty years of my life, or so, I had no idea which party dinner companions belonged to. 

      By the end of the Obama years, my faith in various institutions, was shaken, namely: The Supreme Court was shown by McConnell to be a wholly partisan enterprise.  He didn’t even bother to pay lip service to the concept that it was above politics when he denied Obama his Garland pick.  Next, the Congress, an institution I’d idolized as a child, and tolerated as an adult, seemed incompetent to pass budgets and avoid shutdowns.  Is there any other country in the world as incompetent as ours when it comes to funding its government?  With the advent of cable television, it had truly become what someone once called “Hollywood for ugly people.”  Finally, the US military, an organization that had seemed above the fray, began to fray.  First, the useless decades in Iraq and Afghanistan that followed the 2001 disaster;  then allowing itself to become politicized in the tRump years (though Milley has admitted he made a mistake accompanying the Menace across the street to show off his upside-down bible).

     I’m certainly not the only person to see January 6, 2021 as a sort of culmination of horror for American institutions.  We all know what we saw.  We all know who instigated it.  The nation barely survived.  Yet, Congress and the corrupt Clarence Thomas-Samuel Alito Supreme Court continue to whack at the foundations of any person’s belief that “our system” is sound.

     And, finally, there is this week in Israel.  The same security organization that brought us the Capture of Eichmann in the 1960’s, who systematically assassinated every 1972 Munich terrorist over a period of years, who rescued the airplane from the Entebbe Airport, who helped develop the Stuxnet computer virus to slow Iranian bomb development, who peddled Pegasus around the world to help tyrants and dictators (and a few good guys somewhere, I hope). Yes, those brilliant, shrewd and ruthless people who inspired “The Spy” (a fabulous Netflix series about penetrating the Syrian government), whose alumni are hired around the world to protect oligarchs.  Yes, THE MOSSAD!  Even THEY have been proven completely incompetent.  A collection of sociopaths on hang gliders penetrated the most secure country on earth, in my FORMER understanding, and slaughtered civilians.  Now war ensues.  I hope it does not consume the entire region or even the entire world.  But I am no longer confident.  Is anyone still competent?

                                                            STELLA

     Stella no longer exists, physically.  She’s a memory, a feeling, a being who once was part of our daily lives and no longer is.  She is gone, but definitely not forgotten.

                                                            *****

     We picked up Stella on March 26, 2013.  To do so, we drove from North Carolina to Ridgewood, NJ in order to rendezvous with her breeder who’d traveled from Vermont with a carload of cocker spaniel puppies.  Half were black and white, the other half brown and orange, including Stella.  Reflecting my own weakness for sugar, I chose to describe her as mocha and caramel.

     Stella was an adorable puppy (what puppy isn’t?).  In our excitement, we lost her water bowl at the first rest-stop on the trip home, the sound of I-95 roaring past.  The next morning, back in Chapel Hill, we introduced Stella to our daughter, Sarah.

                                                            *****

     Stella was obtained as a gift to Sarah, in fulfillment of a promise, namely:  if Sarah were to move back from Wilmington, NC, where she’d graduated from college six months earlier, to the Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill area, where we lived, we’d get her a puppy.  We felt her job opportunities would be better.  Sarah’s initial reaction to our offer was unenthused, but a week later, she agreed.  Thus did Stella first play a crucial role in Sarah’s life.  Later, Stella was indispensable in Sarah’s first date with Matthew, who eventually became her husband.  It’s our understanding the two co-workers were intrigued at first sight, but needed a spur.  Stella inspired them to go on a “doggie date” with Matt’s dog, Boris.

                                                            *****

     Stella’s head in my lap; leaning in to being combed by my wife, Katie; waiting anxiously for medicine disguised as treats and sometimes catching them, Stella playing fetch, but never more than two throws – not a stellar athlete, alas; Stella laying in the middle of the staircase because I am downstairs and Katie is up.

     Stella listening at the sewer grates for frogs; her tail wagging at almost each new encounter with a person or a dog; greeting house guests as long-awaited friends, then settling down to enjoy the company in whatever room we humans settled; padding her front paws on the floor anticipating being petted; patiently being walked by five-year-old Henry and even by two-year-old Layla; clambering up to the couch to cover Katie’s legs with her head and paws.

                                                            *****

     Sarah and Stella continued to live with us in Chapel Hill until late June, 2013, when Sarah moved to a condo in Raleigh.  During those months, when Sarah went to work, I walked Stella numerous times a day.  We sat for hours on the front porch and watched the world go by.  She was 95% “house-trained” when she arrived, 100% when they moved.  The earliest walks with Stella revolved around playing with pine cones.  Though she couldn’t often get her little puppy mouth around them, Stella never gave up.  She exuded equanimity and calm.  I felt Stella imprinted on me, like a baby goose to its mother, during those quiet walks and long, languid sits.  In retrospect, maybe it was I who imprinted on her.

                                                            *****

     Stella raced to greet us each morning, sometimes missing a step in her excitement; she leaned greedily into a vigorous noogie; she staked out her spot under the kitchen table during our meals, always calculating the most likely spot for a falling morsel; she rushed to rest and cool down on the granite hearth after warm weather walks; she eagerly consumed her meals, but looked up thoughtfully while she chewed, seeming to savor every mouthful.

                                                            *****

     After Sarah moved to her own home, so that Stella would not be alone all day, Sarah enrolled her in half-day doggie daycare.  Missing her, Katie and I volunteered to visit each Wednesday afternoon and keep her company.  We took long walks around the neighborhood or at the local park.  Stella revealed some tiny vestige of her ancient wolf ancestors when Halloween approached; she growled, barked and shrieked at plastic skeletons or similar decorations, especially the blow-up figures that moved with the wind.  On another route, she attacked two stone figurines shaped to resemble lions.  We were well protected.

     After Sarah married and moved into a house, we continued to visit one afternoon each week.  We added Matt’s dog, Boris, to our walks.  An amiable hundred-pound black lab mix, Boris made a comical combination with twenty-five-pound Stella, but they enjoyed each other’s company and daycare was no longer necessary.

     In 2018, our grandson, Henry, was born.  Any concern that Stella might not appreciate competition for Sarah’s attention proved unnecessary.  Stella seemed fascinated with the baby, following Sarah to check on him if he cried, or sitting patiently on the floor or couch beside Sarah as she cared for him.  We speculated that Stella would have been an amazing mother, loving and calm, if she’d ever had the chance.

                                                            *****

     Around this time, as a middle-aged dog, Stella began to itch and lick more than usual.  She’d developed allergies, particularly to grass.  As if she understood her own condition, Stella avoided walking on grass as much as possible.  Still, she required various medicines to keep physically and mentally comfortable.  Increasingly often, Sarah needed to take her to the dermatology department at NC State University.  These appointments took hours and gobs of money and resulted in testing that revealed Stella was resistant to almost all the usual treatments.  Skin issues are common with cocker spaniels, but Stella’s difficulties were extraordinary.

     Shortly after our granddaughter, Layla, was born, in late 2020, Sarah found managing her job, her household, and the dog-walking and the medicines required by Stella to be overwhelming.  After all, unlike Boris, Stella could not just go out to the yard – the grass allergy wouldn’t allow it – she had to be walked by her human.  With deep sadness that we now understand more than ever, Sarah asked if Stella could live with us.  Though we’d always resisted having a dog of our own, considering the individual, we readily agreed.

     The adjustment to fulltime dog parenting took several months, however.  The worst was disrupted sleep since Stella was a bed-hog.  Once she settled in her spot, typically at a most inconvenient space between our legs, she still scratched and licked enough to keep us up.  Also, the routines of early-morning walks and late evening walks, though pleasant most of the time, were less-than-enjoyable as a 365-day commitment.  After all, sometimes it’s hot and sometimes it’s rainy and sometimes… a human just wants to sleep in.

     We resolved the sleep problem after several months by consigning Stella to a luxurious sort of dog crate, the downstairs bedroom in our house.  She howled like a baby during sleep-training for three nights but then settled into the new routine, seemingly satisfied.  We ALL slept better.

                                                            *****

     Stella’s “meds” sometimes overwhelmed us, too, especially when some acted as a diuretic and required her walks to become even more frequent.  Fortunately, Katie and I had the time to attend to her.  We developed some wonderful routines, such as:  the weekly walk at the Tobacco Trail in Durham, where she pranced like a puppy, sniffing happily; Stella leading the way on the “State Farm” walk, a destination to an office building near our home that she particularly enjoyed; cheerfully raising each of her paws to be wiped clean after each walk in an attempt to battle allergies; leaning in to being combed as though she knew the dry skin needed to be removed; excitedly taking her place in a “doggie car seat” when we’d drive to her other favorite walk, around the lake at a nearby community.

     At the suggestion of our son, Sam, we bought a raised 3’ x 4’ platform for Stella to sit on in front of our house. That way, she could sit outside unleashed, sniffing the air to her heart’s content, but not touching the grass.  Stella immediately loved the contraption and jumped to attention every time she saw us move towards the door with it.  Our neighbors rarely failed to smile when they saw the little “princess” gazing at them from her “throne.”  Several who professed to dislike or fear dogs told us that Stella was the one exception.

                                                            *****

     After Stella’s tenth birthday, in January, she seemed to slow down.  As predicted by the veterinarians, years of prednisone and several steroids were sapping her energy.  Stella began to eat less; she slept behind furniture more often, where we could not see her; she became less inclined to climb up on our laps, though she still did occasionally.  A patch of alopecia grew on her back like an unwelcome stain.  She didn’t always wake up from a nap to greet us when we arrived home.  And her licking and scratching increased.

     When a large rash covered Stella’s tummy, we took her to NC State once again.  The prescribed medicine was slow to work.  We took her to a local vet after several weeks to ask if the formerly red spots, now brown, were still of concern.  The vet initially encouraged us, opining that the rash in question was now inactive.  However, looking at her records and general health, she felt Stella was suffering, notwithstanding her continued sweetness (except when she dug all four paws into the pavement, to not be dragged away from a good smell).  The end was recommended.  “Better to be a month or two early than late,” she said.

     This recommendation shocked us.  Obviously, pets’ lifetimes are relatively short.  And Stella was no youngster.  But… In a daze of sadness, we took Stella to see Sarah’s family one more time during the ensuing weekend.  She reached up to Sarah and Matt in greeting, as always; she sniffed Boris like an old friend; she sat on the floor while Layla and Henry built a pillow fort around her, a goddess of good-natured patience.

                                                            *****

     Two days later, Stella’s last nighttime walk lasted an hour longer than the usual fifteen minutes.  She sat down at the corner of Barbee Road and Route 54 and watched the traffic.  She’d never done that before.  After fifteen minutes, I gently directed her towards our house.  However, she pulled towards the State Farm building, a destination we’d never visited at night.  I went along.  She sat there for a while, listening to traffic and sniffing.  When we resumed walking and had nearly returned home, she sat down again, unmoving, adjacent to the pond across the street from our house, and listened to a symphony of singing frogs, her frenemies.  I recalled the first time she’d approached one on the sidewalk.  She stared at it for a moment, then moved in to sniff it, at which point the frog jumped.  Stella leapt two feet in the opposite direction.  After that, her philosophy regarding amphibians became “live and let live.” 

      We remained still for fifteen minutes.  What was she thinking?  What was she sensing?  Finally, after Katie phoned to make sure we were okay, I pulled Stella towards home. 

                                                         THE NEWS IS UNWATCHABLE

     I did not watch the evening news for years after November, 2016.  In the wake of the “shocking” election result, I asked myself, “Why watch pundits and experts pontificate when it is obvious none of them know anything?”  I also could not stomach the focus on the malignant monster of Mar-a-Lago – not his laughable tan and hair, not his whiny voice, and not his pock-marked skin stretched over the omni-present Mussolini-like jutting jaw.

     I enjoyed the extra thirty minutes added to my evenings.  I didn’t miss the other stories either — the daily drone of weather or traffic disasters, official corruption and the treacly “happy” story designed to tug at the focus group-designed version of heartstrings.

     In January of 2021, however, I dipped my toe back in to televised news.  I was seduced by Jenn Psaki, Biden’s first press secretary, who exuded calm and competence.  After what went before, to call her performances “a breath of fresh air” understates my reaction.  I remained wary of network evening news, however, and watched PBS.  At least Judy Woodruff didn’t focus solely on the scandal du jour, tRump, or the daily once-in-a-century weather crisis; in a masochistic way, I prefer soporific dives into policy.

     Imagine my dismay, last week, when I failed to resist NBC’s broadcast on what I thought would be a memorable news day.  Three stories dominated:  once again, the omnipresent Orange Menace, this time for a federal indictment; the east coast choking on wildfire smoke; and, Natalee Holloway’s alleged killer being extradited from Peru to the US.

     As to the first, why is ANYONE wasting time and energy following the “story” of his indictment?  Here is how the situation is going to be resolve:  the cretinous tRump-appointed judge will let him stall the proceedings until after the 2024 election.  Then, either he will fail to be “president” again, in which case he is a spent political force, once and for all; or, he will be declared “president,” in which case he will pardon himself.  If some other Republican is inaugurated, they will pardon him.  There are no other choices.  No matter what, an 80-year-old “first-time offender,” who just happens to be a former “president” will not be jailed, no matter how satisfying that might be.  End of story.  Do not spend another moment on the subject.  Period.

     The second story was unhealthy air for tens of millions of North Americans due to wildfires.  Lester Holt related this as a weather story.  A bad situation, yes, but one that will resolve in several days.  Just a matter of a shift of the wind….  This maddens me.  Out-of-control wildfires in the wilds of Canada before the official “fire season” has even begun is a hugely important story.  It should be presented like Pearl Harbor for the whole world, as though Hurricanes Katrina and Sandy were insufficient to make the point.  

     Government, industry and, yes INDIVIDUALS need to own this situation.  Make changes, make sacrifices (sorry to be un-American) and deal with this.  Don’t blame China and India.  If the US leads, they will follow.  Studies show, to my shock, that no, people do not “care” much about the world they will leave their grandchildren.  If something is not “relevant” to a short time frame, the human tendency to discount the future is huge.  Likewise, our politicians only think in terms of two, four or six years.  But these fires and their smoke are happening NOW, affecting US, not only our grandchildren, though they will certainly be a large part of their lives.  This story cannot wait!  This story should dominate every day!  Did Lester Holt say that?  No, because he had to cut to the breaking developments in the crucially important story of, wait for it…. Natalee Holloway!

     Yes, valuable broadcast minutes were allotted to the sordid tale of a 2005 murder because Peru finally agreed to extradite the likely perpetrator to face “justice.”  Would this be a story if Natalee Holloway had not been blond and blue-eyed?  Of course not.  Every day, an average of 120 Americans die from gun violence.  However, that story is never told except in fits and starts, whenever there is a mass murder or the killing of photogenic college students.

     I feel sorry for Natalee and for her loved ones.  A terrible thing happened to her.  But her story is not NEWS.  And the “justice” to be meted out to her sociopathic-looking killer is unnecessary in this instance because he is already serving a 28-year sentence in a Peruvian prison for a murder he committed in Lima.  Why not let him continue to rot there?  Perhaps he could be placed in a cell with a few cartel members who are informed he’s a sexual predator.  That would elicit justice.

     Instead, we will spend millions of taxpayer dollars to transport him to the United States and trudge him through our turgid “justice” system.  Thereafter, we will spend millions more dollars to jail him in conditions probably much-improved over whatever he is experiencing in Peru!

     That’s it.  I’m done with network news again.  Perhaps I will succumb to temptation in 2025 if our democratic system survives 2024 and if the air in front of my own eyes doesn’t already tell me everything I need to know about the condition and future of mankind.

                                                            Signed,

                                                            A Curmudgeon who is Losing his Patience

                                                           SPORTSMANSHIP

     Society prizes “good” sportsmanship.  When I coached youth soccer, coaching clinics always emphasized its importance.  For instance, we were encouraged to never allow a game to be decided by more than seven goals.   Profanity was not allowed.  The teams lined up to shake hands after the final whistle.

      My earliest lessons on sportsmanship took place at home.  At about eight, I witnessed my aunt fling the board across the room following a Scrabble defeat: clearly unacceptable.  I also knew of an opponent who hid an “S” in her hand throughout the game so she’d have it available in a crucial moment; also clearly wrong.  (Who knew Scrabble could be so treacherous?)

     However, baseball consumed most of my thoughts during the first decade of my life.  Through baseball I first encountered the moral question that confronts people on a constant basis, on issues big and small:  “Does the end justify the means?”   Then as now, the answer is often unclear.

                                                            *****

          What constitutes “good” sportsmanship evolves with society.  We’d be angered, for instance, to hear verbal abuse, based upon race or ethnicity that dominated professional sporting events in the first half of the twentieth century.  As shown in every recounting of Jackie Robinson’s career, athletes not only tolerated hateful speech, they often participated in it.  Yet, they also enforced a code of honor that’s now violated regularly.  For instance, imagine a football player dancing in the end zone following a touchdown in 1960.   The only question would have been who would beat him up first, the opposing team or his own. 

     A professional tennis player recently created controversy when she refused to shake hands and wish her opponent good luck before a match.  Her refusal represented a departure from tennis etiquette as old as tennis itself.  She said, in paraphrase:  “I’m trying to beat her.  I don’t want her to have good luck.  Why should I fake it?”  I found her honesty jarring.  Yet, it sort of makes sense. 

                                                            *****

      “We need a pitcher,” said my wife, Katie, as we prepared to host some friends for lunch, “for iced tea.”

     This quotidian statement dislodged a brain cell that hadn’t stirred since 1965.  I played second base on a summer Little League team named the Pirates.  Most of my teammates’ names are lost in the haze of memory.  However, I remember the excitement of Saturday mornings at the playground, the feel of the sunshine, the smell of fresh-cut grass, and the satisfying sounds of baseballs landing in leather mitts.  

     Creating a less satisfying sound, throughout the games, each team serenaded the opposing pitcher in a manner I can’t imagine being allowed nowadays:  “We want a pitcher, not a belly-itcher.”  This taunt passed for wit among 8 and 9-year-olds.  Both teams employed the same chant, in the same teasing tone of voice, even if the opposing pitcher performed superbly; in that case, the losing team simply sounded more mean-spirited, more desperate.  (Picture Ted Cruz after an unfavorable judicial decision).

                                                            *****

     I lived for those games with the Pirates whose coach was Mr. Greenfield, a middle-aged man.  Almost unimaginably, in retrospect, he didn’t have a child on the team.  I don’t know if he even had children of his own.  He simply volunteered his time to coach other people’s kids.  Nowadays, sadly, I suspect we’d question his motives.  

     I wanted to play shortstop, the premier infield position, but I was consigned to second base.  Unfortunately, a kid named Scott played shortstop, and his seemingly advanced puberty made him our unquestioned star.  Hoping to be cool, I wore dark glasses on the field, even when it was cloudy.  When I batted, I held my bat at a jaunty angle, pointed down instead of up.  Bashful and retiring in every other aspect of life, I craved attention on the baseball field.

     Similarly, our team, consisting of a mostly nerdy bunch of Jewish kids from West Philadelphia, fashioned itself as stars, as though historical records were posted and the Pirates perennially topped the standings.  As an adult, I understand no one tracked historical records of Little League teams; I’m not even certain anyone tracked the standings at the time.  Drawing on his decades of experience, Mr. Greenfield simply excelled at making us feel good about ourselves.  

     The Angels, sponsored by St. Donato’s, the local Catholic Church, were the only opponents we feared.  They represented the mysterious “other.”  Since their players attended parochial school and my team attended public school, they were, indeed, unknown to us.  Objective facts recede to stereotypes and vagaries of memory, but my recollection is they appeared bigger and tougher than my teammates.  Their pitcher always inspired whispered speculation among my teammates:  “How old do you think he really is?”   

                                                            *****

     Following my two seasons under Mr. Greenfield’s direction, I aged out of the “minor league” and moved into the “major league” for ten and eleven-year-olds.  Mr. Greenfield remained with the younger players, and I worried if we couldn’t find another coach, the Pirates would disband.  I agonized.  I couldn’t sleep.

     Into the breach, like a savior, came my older brother, David, home from college for the summer.  Not only did he save the team, my own status rose:  Brother of the Coach!  To his credit, David didn’t practice nepotism.  I still played second base, subordinate to splendid Scott.  Yet, it was immensely satisfying to have David there; though the youngest coach in the league, by far, he had a firm grip on strategies and techniques.  He made practices fun, and we won nearly every game.  Crucially, David treated as many of us as could fit in his red Camaro to ice cream after wins.

                                                            *****

     The season proceeded routinely, as we whipped teams named the Mets and the Cubs and a team sponsored by an undertaker.  Boy, did that strike us funny!  We had no trouble beating a poor team wearing tee shirts instead of real uniforms and trounced a team drawn from a ritzy private school – they made us look tough, by comparison.  Looming in the last game, however, was St. Donato’s, with their big kids in their green-trimmed uniforms.  Even their coach was monster-sized!

     From the moment we arrived at the field, it was clear we were in trouble.  Their pitcher, who we speculated was growing a mustache, stood inches taller than our biggest player, Scott.  During warm-ups, we watched slack-jawed as he threw faster than anyone we’d ever seen.  Though only ten, I sensed the smug expression on St. Donato’s coach as he loomed over David in the pre-game meeting with the umpire.

     Once the game began, our pitching and defense performed well enough, but batting seemed hopeless.  We sat glumly between innings.  We didn’t dare taunt the pitcher with our chant.  From my first at-bat, I recall seeing his arm move and then hearing a thump in the catcher’s mitt behind me.  What had happened to the ball?  How fast was this supposed eleven-year-old throwing?  As the innings flew by, we’d only surrendered two runs, but we couldn’t get anyone on base.  How could we score?

     “Gather around,” said David, before our last at-bat.  “I have an idea.” 

     Following David’s instructions, though we were all right-handed, our first batter sidled up to the left side of the plate.  He crowded into the space just inches from the plate.  As a final touch, he crouched so tightly that his strike zone, the area between his knees and chest, compressed to just a few inches.

     The pitcher looked confused.  Left-handed batters were rare.  He threw his first pitch in the dirt.  The next pitch flew over the catcher’s head.

     “Hey ump,” shouted St. Donato’s head coach.  “That kid’s not left-handed!”

     The umpire shrugged:  “It’s not illegal.”

     “How close to the plate can he get?” asked the coach.

     “As close as he wants,” said the umpire, “so long as he’s in the batting box.”

     Our first batter walked.  Our second batter took the same left-handed crouch and took first base after four more pitches missed the tiny strike zone.

     “Hey,” shouted the coach.  “You gotta call some of these strikes!  They’re bending over.  This isn’t fair.”

     The umpire turned to David, who shrugged innocently.   David said to us:  “Hey, how ‘bout some life around here!”

     We started our chant:  “We want a pitcher, not a belly-itcher!”

     The pitcher glared at us with anger, despair and humiliation.  He walked the next batter to load the bases and plunked the next batter with a pitch in the thigh to score a run.  By this time, in his fruitless effort to throw strikes, he threw so slowly the kid who was hit barely flinched before heading to first base.  

     “We want a pitcher….”  “We want a pitcher….”
      Shaking his head, St. Donato’s coach walked to the mound to calm his star, who may have been his son, and we saw the kid wipe his eyes.  After a moment’s discussion, the coach signaled he was replacing the big pitcher, who was now sobbing.  Scott was our next batter.  He hit the reliever’s first pitch for a double and we won the game.

                                                            *****

     Was it the right thing to do?  Was it good sportsmanship?  Did the end justify the means?  I know this:  we celebrated that day without any ambivalence, the day our David helped us beat Goliath.

                                                A PRO-LIFE DECLARATION

     I live in an extraordinarily diverse townhome community in Durham, NC, a city that recently voted for Joe Biden by a margin of 80-20.  When I walk around the block, I feel confident my neighbors share my political outlook even if we may have little else in common in terms of age, ethnicity, race and religion.  But there are still the twenty percent.  For instance, a gay couple, Pete and Jeff, shocked me when they moved in shortly after the 2016 election and, unasked, proclaimed themselves to be “proud Republicans.”  

     “How is that possible?” I asked.

     “We’re from upstate New York,” Pete responded.  “We’ve always been Republicans.”

     “Okay,” I said, cautiously.  “But being a Republican can mean you just don’t like taxes or you say you care about the deficit, or something.  It doesn’t mean you support….” 

     “We like Donald Trump,” said Jeff.  “He won’t be so bad.  You’ll see.”

     Fast forward to late October 2020:  After assiduously avoiding politics for nearly four years in favor of observing the weather or petting their dog, when I saw Jeff standing in his driveway one day, I thought I’d ask how he felt about Joe Biden.  After all, Biden should be his hero.  He’d declared support for gay marriage ahead of President Obama, pulling the latter along.  And, surely, contrary to Jeff’s prediction, the Orange Menace had not been as bad as originally feared; he’d been much, much worse.  Anyone could see that.  Couldn’t they?

     “We still like Donald Trump,” said Jeff.  “We think he’s good for the country.”

     I was so shocked I lost all sense of tact.  “I’m sure some Jews thought Hitler would be good for Germany, but…”

     Jeff had already turned his back on me and headed inside.  “That’s offensive, he blurted.”

                                                            *****

     Journalistic careers are being built speculating how 72 million of our fellow citizens voted to keep a mendacious sociopath in office for four more years.  The NY Times has an article or an op-ed nearly every day on the subject; it’s also a staple of The New Yorker and the Atlantic Monthly and every other outpost of the presumably literate and rational.  

     Perhaps I’m not qualified to opine on the subject; then again, how qualified were the pundits and pollsters who predicted a victory for Clinton in 2016 or a blowout by Biden in 2020.   So here goes, a no-holds-barred analysis of Trump supporters.

      First, Trump voters fall into three categories:  1.  Low-income and/or low information racists;  2.  Greedy bastards;  and, 3.  Evangelicals, a/k/a/ Hypocrites.  No new ground will be broken by me on the first group.  Low-income whites find comfort believing someone is below them on the ladder of society, and they look to black and brown people to fill that role.  When the “minorities” get uppity, as when Obama became president, their anger and insecurities are triggered.  And we all know how they love their triggers as well as any other part of a gun.  Promise them coal jobs.  Promise them a wall to keep out more black and brown people. Promise then “cheaper health care.” It doesn’t matter what they are promised since they don’t care or notice when the promise is not kept.  Just keep messaging to them that their “supremacy” as the “real” Americans will be preserved.

     Next, the greedy bastards.  They are also fairly easy to analyze.  These are people who care exclusively about their individual financial situations.  No other issue matters.  Protect the capital gains tax rate, lower the corporate tax rate, keep interest rates low to juice the stock market, eviscerate the estate tax so they can salt away their winnings for future generations, and they will be happy.  The common good?  Forget about it.  Equality, forget about it.  Clean air or water?  Forget about it.  The message for them is “nothing will change.”  Their castles will not be breached.  

     Finally, the evangelicals, the religious, observant, God-fearing people who voted by 85-15% margins to have a philandering thrice married buffoon who makes fun of handicapped people and Gold Star parents atop our government.  How can they not be described as hypocrites?  Some, though not too many, are also greedy bastards and many are also low-information racists.  Of the three groups, to me, evangelicals are the most interesting and confounding.

                                                            *****

     When I venture outside, I sometimes encounter our across-the-street neighbors, Dell and Christina.  Neither of us goes out of our way to chat but we wave and exchange pleasantries whenever we see each other.  Dell and Christina are retired IBM employees who married late in life and who make clear their social lives revolve around their evangelical church.  Dell happens to be Black and Christina is not, which is irrelevant except insomuch as it created in my mind an assumption of political liberality on their parts.  Both are gentle in manner, and I’ve always been impressed by Christina’s thoughtfulness.  She is the only neighbor who commemorates my birthday each year with a card, a REAL, PAPER card.  Yet, Christina is another person who shocked my wife, Katie, a year or two ago, by telling her she “supports our president.”  

     “How is it possible?” Katie and I asked each other, when she relayed what Christina had said, our assumptions blown to bits.

     As with Pete and Jeff, we subsequently confined all small talk with Christina to the weather or gardening.  Dell’s politics remained ambivalent.  In conversation he presents himself as a deeply spiritual person inclined to view all earthly politics and even all human affairs as “insignificant in the cosmic sense.”  I respect that view – he may be right.  Who knows?

     But last summer, in an unusual move, Dell purposefully strode across the street to talk to me while I was puttering in the garden.  

     “I’m so upset about George Floyd,” he said, his voice cracking.

     “Yes, it’s awful,” I agreed.  

     George Floyd, a Black man, had been murdered the previous week by Minneapolis police.  Caught on video, the act was brutal and callous and without ambiguity.  The nation was wracked with demonstrations and expressions of agony.  However, the president could barely acknowledge George Floyd’s humanity; he focused on the violence being perpetrated by a small minority of demonstrators.

     “What is wrong with this country?” asked Dell.  “Where is our leadership?”

       Dell’s pain surprised me because of how emotional he seemed, without his usual detachment.  I didn’t really know what to say except to agree, of course, that what had happened was terrible.

      “I don’t know who to talk to,” he continued.   “I’ve experienced my own pain with the police.  It’s not easy being who I am.  And my own wife is blind to what’s going on.”

     My mind was racing through various responses.  Obviously, Dell was a Black man and, as such, far more entitled to emote about George Floyd’s murder than I.  But to me, his race had never seemed central to his being.  As he was a retired professional, now focused on gardening, bicycling and church-related activities, I did not associate Dell with the greater African-American community or its suffering.  And I certainly didn’t want to get in the middle of any marital issues.

     “Um,” I said.  “I’m sure Christina cares…”

     “She cares,” said Dell.  “But she supports whatever the president says.  She is pro-life and the president is pro-life.  End of discussion.”

     “That’s ironic,” I offered, thinking about what had happened to George Floyd.  “So that is her basis for admiring Donald Trump?”

     “She doesn’t ‘admire’ Trump,” clarified Dell.  “But she does support him because of the one issue.  She likes the judges.  That’s her thing.”

     “So if your main issue is equal rights,” I said, piecing my thoughts together, “or my main issue is environmental protection, and someone else’s issue might be health care, Christina feels her issue outweighs all of those.”

     “Precisely,” said Dell.  “It’s very frustrating.”

     It should not have come as a revelation, I suppose.  I’d often heard of the one-issue “pro-life” voters.  I disagreed with them and vaguely disapproved of them.  However, I didn’t realize until I spoke with Dell just what about them so infuriated me:  They are hypocrites!!! The newest Supreme Court justice, Amy Coney Barrett, for instance, has made a career of being “pro-life.”  No doubt she would deny a woman’s right to an abortion and will do what she can to limit a woman’s ability to obtain one. 

      Barrett and other “conservative” judges will not only limit reproductive choice, but will also be less likely to support reasonable gun regulations, environmental protections, universal health care, and be more likely to support the death penalty and harsh border protections such as family separation. In balance, they are the complete opposite of “pro-life.”  In her first vote, just last week, Barrett supported the right of religious institutions to hold large gatherings during a pandemic in direct opposition to the recommendations of public health professionals.  Will she “own” the additional deaths that ensue?  Of course not.  She’s a hypocrite!

     Furthermore, self-proclaimed “pro-life” politicians and judges ironically support a set of positions that may as well be called fourth-trimester abortions: they wish to require poor women (because wealthy women who want to end their pregnancies will find a way) to give birth whether or not the child is desired, but these “pro-lifers” are less likely to support that child’s eventual access to healthcare, education, housing, voting, or nutrition.

     With my newfound clarity, I said to Dell:  “I appreciate that you told me about your feelings.  It helps me to understand many things, about you, and about so-called ‘pro-life’ voters.  Come talk about it any time.”

     “Thanks,” he said.  “It feels better just to have spoken to someone.”

                                                            *****

     Now that I’ve pondered the three segments of Trump supporters, I wonder what can be done to reach them.  First, I call on Democrats to declare themselves the PRO-LIFE candidates and explain the myriad ways that is true.  No longer should they cede that wonderfully clear message to the other side.  To me, “pro-choice” sounds like part of a cable television promotion.  

     Second, drop the “Green New Deal” as a slogan.  Given the ignorance of our electorate, I’d bet less than ten percent even know what the 1930’s-era New Deal involved.  Instead, call it the JOBS AND HEALTHCARE Act.

     Third, (and this idea is not original to me) cease referring to “defunding the police.”  Perhaps, “repurposing” is a helpful term, or “refocusing.”  In any event, it should be clear that everyone, of all political persuasions, appreciates and supports police officers who “Protect and Serve.”  Police work can be difficult and dangerous.  However, the minority of officers who tend towards panic and/or sadism must be ferreted out.  A concerted effort to have social workers take over most interactions with the mentally ill, homeless and non-violent domestic disputes could, it is hoped, limit the number of disastrous encounters.

     Fourth, Democrats have already moved towards referring to “gun control” as “commonsense gun regulations.”  That’s an improvement in messaging, but doesn’t have the bite of something like:  “Suicide and Mass Murder Protection Act.”  For instance, everyone in America should know that a stunning 90% of suicides occur in gun-owning households!  They might also be intrigued to learn that Australia hasn’t had a single mass murder since the 1990’s when they outlawed private gun ownership.  But I’m sure that’s a step too far, alas.  So stick with the suicide statistic that is readily available in about thirty seconds of research. 

     The election of Joe Biden, a normal (for a politician) person with a sense of empathy, is a good start to returning our nation to some sense of decency.  My benediction is this: May his and his party’s messaging be clear enough to penetrate some ignorance and dogma, and make my future walks around the block less fraught.

DREAMSCAPE

 

I crossed a border of sorts, last night.  For the first time, I dreamed I was wearing a mask and encountering other people wearing them, too.  My dream contained all the anxieties affixed to the issue, wondering who would wear a mask and who would not.  Who would wear it properly and who would have their nostrils showing?  The scene played out at a Dunkin Donuts where eight or ten teenagers bustled behind the counter.  While waiting for the drink I’d ordered, I felt relieved at how compliant all the staff were until stung by the sudden appearance of the manager.  A woman of massive girth, she strode naked-faced from an office in the rear to accost her minions in a spittle-laced tirade for failing to achieve their speed incentives.  Abandoning the cherished promise of iced coffee I turned and pushed through the glass door into blinding sunlight and…awoke.

 

*****

 

As I imagine is commonly felt, the bizarre experience of 2020 is reshaping my mind in myriad ways.  For instance, an entire vocabulary is evolving.  It’s not just  “social distancing” I practice; I’m also acutely aware of “droplets” and “aerosols.”  I’d only ever considered the former in connection with water sizzling on a hot pan, the latter with regard to cans of hair spray.  Now, in theory, I know these things can kill me.

On a more positive note, “droplets” and “aerosols” are useful Scrabble words, holding the promise of a fifty-point bonus for using all seven letters at once.  Since the virus appeared, deprived of more active past-times, I have become adept at playing Scrabble on an I-pad.  I play against the highest level of computerized competition, a vain choice that both stretches my abilities and humbles me.  I lose most games to words I’ve never used or even seen.  I admit to some paranoia, too.  Could it be mere coincidence whenever I get a high-scoring word the machine immediately saddles me with a U, a V and a C as punishment?  In an alternative nightmare, in Scrabble terms, I get four I’s or three G’s and two W’s.

 

*****

 

Born just three years after the last great pandemic, my mother died last December, just three months before this one.  She played Scrabble against the computer as her favorite activity during the last years of her life.  At 97-and-a-half, (One counts the half if one is under five or over 90, I believe) she still had all her wits about her.  She retained curiosity, too, asking after each grandchild or great-grandchild in order, never missing a name.  All she’d lost was enthusiasm for her own life.

I never fail to think of her when I play.  The memory is bittersweet.  Our family had hoped she would enjoy her final years at her beautiful apartment, a facility with a full program of restaurants, recreation and music.  Instead, she resisted all entreaties to socialize.  She explained, in nearly so many words, she had no interest in making new acquaintances, in feigning interest in their children and grandchildren.

When I received the call that she’d died I felt sadness, but also a measure of relief.  She’d died in her sleep, without having seen a doctor, let alone a hospital, in years.  She’d never complained about her declining physical abilities, and she’d never admitted to any pain.  I regret now that an impulse to call her with good news cannot take place, but I can’t say I really miss our typical later conversations captured, almost verbatim, as follows, after we’d “covered” all the children:

Me:  “Is anything interesting happening there?”

Mom:    “Nothing.”

Me:  “What are you doing today?”

Mom:  “Not much. Reading.”

Me:  “What will you do this evening?  Is there a concert or movie to see?”

Mom:  “Not interested.”

 

*****

 

The theme at the funeral was, accurately, what a long and eventful life she’d led and what a painless death.  Born poor, she’d moved often throughout the 1920’s while her family struggled.  Only because her father ran a small grocery store, the Depression did not result in hunger.  She married my father, a much older man, right after high school, a choice perhaps more pragmatic than romantic, and proceeded to run a middle class household.  She gave birth to children when she was 21, 23 and 25, with an exclamation point (me) when she was 35.  She insisted I had not been “a mistake,” a contention I appreciated.  (My father could never bring himself to verbally affirm her assurance, though he acted sufficiently happy to have me, once I appeared).

My mother enrolled in college as soon as I started first grade, graduated with honors and completed a master’s degree by age fifty. Tired of relying upon my father to place $90 on the bureau each week, an amount unchanged from 1941 to the 1970’s, she loved her career as a public school librarian and the freedom it afforded.

 

*****

 

As good a death as we commemorated in December, the events of 2020 have served to make her passing seem providential.  Though adept at social distancing, my mother would be miserable under the present circumstances.  As at many such senior facilities, she would now be in her fifth month of imprisonment in her apartment, with meals dropped off at the door.  I think I can accurately speak for my siblings, too, when I say we all are relieved she isn’t around for the pandemic.  Those turgid phone calls would have continued, but probably in a daily, not-optional, duty-bound sort of way.

Missing politics in 2020 is also fortunate.  Before 2016, my mother would contradict any suggestion that “things have never been so terrible.”  She’d experienced the Depression and the anti-Semitic demagogues like Father Coughlin in the 1930’s, World War Two and the Holocaust in the 1940’s, McCarthyism in the 1950’s and Nixon in the 1960’s and 1970’s.

My mother was interested in politics.  She often recounted her adoration for FDR and how she cried upon news of his death.  Perhaps unusual for a high school grad with three young children she campaigned door-to-door for Adlai Stevenson in 1952 and 1956.  She placed a McCarthy sticker on her car in 1968.  Though she detested Nixon like any good Democrat, she still believed the United States was special and, through his impeachment-spurred resignation, felt the political system was vindicated.

Therefore, nothing was so disillusioning as the reckless disregard of American values represented by the election of a reality-television buffoon as president in 2016.  She didn’t believe in voting frivolously and could not fathom how any rational person could vote for such a clown.  For her sake, I’m sorry she cannot at least make one last vote in November.  But the nightmare he and his cult-followers are likely to unleash in the next 100 days would likely shock even the most jaded nonagenarian.  Just thinking about it makes me understand her end-of-life attitude a little better; I will now go lose myself in a Scrabble game.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

DESPERATE MEASURES

 

 

Not only does the new normal involve wearing masks and gloves in public, it also places people in other positions never before imagined.  While my hair still retains a semblance of the appearance it gained from my last haircut, albeit longer and curlier, my wife, Katie, recently perceived hers to be in dire straits.  The emergence of grey at the roots disturbed her to such an extent she enlisted me to assist in coloring her hair!

*****

 

As with childbirth and numerous household undertakings, I generally have it easier than Katie in the world of hair.  About a decade ago, silver interlopers began to infiltrate my dark brown mane.  Instead of perceiving a crisis, people said it looked good with “salt and pepper.”  Gradually, the ratio of salt to pepper increased. Now I barely have enough pepper to justify the phrase.  My hair color has so much salt, perhaps it should be called briny.  Still, there are no telltale roots to call attention to my aging appearance.  Those pesky roots are probably what cause people, men and women alike, who commenced coloring their hair to continue coloring their hair, ad infinitum.

Personally, I’m not judging the appearance of grey in a woman’s hairdo.  Grey can be attractive.  Brown or black or red can be attractive.  Nowadays, even pink or purple can be attractive.  But it’s my understanding that once a person starts coloring their hair, it’s hard to break the habit.

*****

 

First, the process:  Katie has used the same color for approximately twenty years.  Gorgeous dark brunette when I met her, she is now an appealing blonde.  Does she have more fun?  “Sometimes,” she says, “but I just like the color, and it goes well with my skin and blue eyes.” I agree, of course.

It is possible to purchase an off-the-shelf hair color product at CVS or the like.  However, Katie first obtained her particular shade from her stylist, Jimmy, in New Jersey.  The situation is akin to house paint: you can buy a ready-made can at the hardware store, but if you want to achieve a particular, precise hue, there is mixing to be done.

When we moved to North Carolina in 2009, Jimmy kindly obtained a year’s worth of the exact color for Katie’s hair dye from his wholesaler and provided it to her.  And for several years, until Katie found a local salon she liked, we’d arrange to pick up additional packages of her color when we visited North Jersey.  Once she established a relationship with Cece, a local stylist, Katie could obtain her color locally.

 

*****

 

I have never had a “stylist.”   From when I was a child of five or six, and continuing through adolescence, I had a barber named Dominic.  His coke-bottle thick glasses unsettled me, but Dominic did the job without unintended amputations or further ado except he often complained to my mother I had “two holes in my head.”  Such a concept was initially alarming.  Eventually I understood the “hole” was the whorl of hair at the top of my head; most people have one clearly defined whorl.  Apparently, I had two.  Or so he said.  No one has mentioned it since.

Perhaps, it was his glasses or, perhaps, his complaints, but I felt no loyalty to Dominic.  As soon as I attended college, I embarked on a thirty-five year odyssey through a series of barbers, cutters and crimpers.  Whatever was convenient is where I went.  While the cutters changed, my “style” did not.   In the last couple of years, I have also gone to Cece, who is invariably friendly and capable.  In fact, Cece is certainly capable of far more than I ask of her.  Every seven or eight weeks, I have a “trim.”  My annual hair budget is about $150.

 

*****

 

I knew Katie has a stash of her color.  I didn’t know, however, that another element of hair color is “developer.”  Apparently, it is built into the generic hair color packages one buys at the pharmacy.  But for bespoke hair, one must mix the color and the developer precisely.  This is where expertise comes in; also, one has to be able to obtain the developer and, as sweet as Cece is, and as doubtlessly willing to help if asked, it’s awkward to ask one’s stylist to provide developer during the pandemic hair hiatus.  That’s like asking your landscaper to provide you a mower so you can do the job without him.  Fortunately for Katie, though not for him, a new neighbor of ours owns a salon presently shut down by the pandemic.  He was happy to swap a supply of developer for several bottles of wine.  Now, to the mixing and the application….

*****

 

Katie had commenced applying a mixture of developer and color herself when she urgently called me upstairs. When I arrived in the bathroom, she had a towel draped over her shoulders and an expression of fear and anxiety I’d rarely seen.   She listed some of the problems before we even considered the greatest possible problem, namely: I was going to be taking over the application of the dye.  “There are areas on top, the sides and back I can’t see,” she said.

Further, Katie said: “I hope the mix of dye and developer is okay.  And what if it’s not covering sufficiently?”  She continued:  “Also, the brush,” (salvaged from a watercolor paint set), “may not have been applying color evenly.”  She explained there is a lag between application of the coloring and when the roots begin to transform from telltale grey.

While Katie held up strands of hair with a comb to reveal cross-sections of roots, I took hold of the brush, dipped it into the bowl of mix and prepared to apply my first strokes.  “Careful,” she said, as I immediately dripped some excess onto her ear, which reminded us why I’ve been fired for life from house-painting projects.

Gradually, while both of us were anxious, we found a rhythm.  Katie moved her comb a few centimeters and I dabbed.  Repeat.  Repeat.  Repeat.  Of course, I had to replenish the brush after every few strokes.  This process involved such pitfalls as placing too much color on the brush, too little, not rubbing hard enough, rubbing too hard, etc.  When we felt all the areas had, at least, been touched, we paused to see the result.  Over twenty-five minutes or so, the applied color emerged to cover eighty percent of the roots.  “A solid B-minus,” I declared, satisfied.

“Not good enough,” said Katie.  “Let’s do it again.”

I couldn’t protest because, of course, she was right.  The importance of a woman’s hair color and the sensitivity around the subject cannot be underestimated!  I tentatively loaded the brush again and aimed for the remaining grey.  Tightrope walkers probably concentrate less when crossing a thousand-foot gorge.

After ten more interminable minutes that seemed much longer, we stepped back from the mirror, put down our respective comb and brush, and waited to see the results.  Slowly, slowly, it came.  “Hmmmm,” we looked at each other in surprise.  “Not bad.”

Indeed, her hair color looked almost as it did after a professional job.  It was, at least, in the ballpark.  And our marriage was still intact.  The job will not last as long as if Cece had done it, but a few weeks of benefit had been earned.

We’d achieved a win-win-win.  We saved money; we appreciated each other’s efforts; and, we derived a great deal of satisfaction from the accomplishment.  So, do we want to do it again?  Please, no!!!  My maiden entry into the world of cosmetology went as well as could be hoped, I think.  But the disclaimer “you wouldn’t want to do this at home,” still adheres.

Now, for someone to cut the bangs….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A MOTHER GOOSE TALE

 

 

We live across the street from a pond.  For the past three springs there have been geese but no goslings, ducks but no ducklings, and swans…. Well, actually, there has never been a swan.  Last Friday morning, for the first time, I noticed a goose had chosen to make her nest and lay eggs.  She’d built the nest seemingly overnight.  It leans against the dry side of a concrete storm drain outlet separated from a parking area by about thirty feet of grass.  Her partner (for geese are said to be monogamous) swims or rests nearby.  Basic research into goose behavior indicates the mother will incubate her eggs for 25-30 days, rarely, if ever, leaving to bathe or eat.  The parents will also defend their nest aggressively if they feel threatened.

*****

 

This slice of natural life allows one to witness thrilling aspects of animal behavior.  One also learns about humans behavior, which has been less than thrilling.  Within just a few hours, for instance, the nest attracted the attention of a young mother walking her two-year-old.  From my vantage point across the street I saw them immediately express excitement and bound towards the nest, stopping just several feet away.  The mother goose snapped to rigid alertness, and her mate flew across the pond to monitor the possible threat.  I’m not certain what the human mother thought, but she did gather her child and step back.

Only moments later, a teenaged boy approached within arms length of the nest and just stood there.  He stared as though he were seeing a ghost, not a goose.

“She might need some space,” I suggested, from across the street.

“But I’m not doing anything,” he responded, with the special tone of aggrieved defensiveness only a 15-year-old can muster.

“Perhaps you cannot do anything from a few steps back,” I said, with the tone only an officious boomer can muster.

He grudgingly moved back.

For the safety of the goose and people, it occurred to me I should make some sort of barrier at least twenty feet from the nest.  I did so by hammering into the ground several tall gardening stakes and connecting them with thick electric tape.  Surely, I thought, people will give the nesting mother her privacy.

I am so naïve.  At first, the barrier only served to capture peoples’ attention.  All of a sudden, neighbors who have never previously appeared to notice the pond while they drove or walked past stopped to see the ”attraction.”  And there are a lot of neighbors around now, staying at home due to the virus.  They snap pictures; they gesticulate; they call over their spouses and children like the scene is worthy of a David Attenborough nature documentary.  Most stayed behind the tape.  I felt I had done what I could.

 

 

*****

 

The next day dawned warm and sunny.  I saw the mother goose on her nest.  She sat serenely all morning despite the parade of people.  Mid-afternoon, I walked across to the parking lot to pick up mail.  When I turned back towards home, I saw a neighbor who I will call “Mark” emerge from his driveway with a golf club and a handful of balls.  This appearance was not unusual; Mark is a thirty-something-year-old Naval Academy graduate who works as an engineer.  I know from brief interactions over the years that he loves to golf.  He practices on the grass near the pond several times a season.

To my astonishment, however, he appeared to be lining up to target the nest.  His first shot landed just short of the tape barrier and rolled within feet of the nest.  His second shot was identical.  The third went farther and splashed into the pond beyond.

Outraged, I shouted:  “Are you kidding?”  I strode towards him from 100 feet away.  He ignored me and walked to retrieve his golf balls.

“You know there’s a goose there, right?”  I said, when I drew closer.

“Hunh?” he replied.  “Why do you care?”

Mark continued to move towards the nest and reached for the balls with his club.  The mother honked with alarm.  Her partner flapped his wings nearby.

“They will attack,” I said.

“I have this,” he said, brandishing his golf club.

He seemed truly mystified I was upset.  For an instant, I nearly let loose a stream of blurted insults and threats. The words “moron” and “cretin” would have been included.  But I didn’t.

 

*****

 

Dear Reader:  Have you ever had a moment when a river of thoughts cascade through your mind at once and, perhaps, bring you back from the brink of making a terrible decision?  During this moment I considered the following information:

1. Given his mind-set Mark could reasonably be surprised I cared about a nest of Canadian geese. After all, in reality, once those geese hatched and learned to walk as far as my lawn, I will be chasing them away with a broom due to their prolific pooping;
2. Canadian geese are the opposite of an endangered species.  If anything, they are overpopulating;
3. Mark has all the hallmarks of being our neighborhood’s only Trump supporter. Unnecessary pick-up truck: check.   NRA sticker: check.  Deep Southern accent and military hairdo: check.  Barbell set-up in his garage along with a wall television invariably tuned to Fox: check.  In other words, if I went one phrase further in my verbal assault on behalf of Mother Goose, he might have decided to exercise his second amendment rights.  It could have become: “Thoughts and prayers” for me.

*****

 

All the foregoing merged into the following change of topic and de-escalation gambit:

“So, Mark, what did you think of Captain Crozier’s firing?”  I asked.

“I was a little surprised they took it that far,” he answered.

“I just finished reading ‘Indianapolis’” I told him, referencing the book about the World War II naval disaster.

“Yes, I remember that,” said Mark.  “But I wasn’t really into naval history, just engineering,” he added.

I paused.

“Well,” I finally said, gesturing towards the goose, now settled back onto her nest, “I was just hoping to give her some privacy.”

Mark considered my remark in silence for a moment.  His blank expression provided no clue to his thoughts.

“Oh” he muttered quietly.  “I was just really… really surprised the balls bounced that far… really.”

I was skeptical.  Knowing he’s an excellent golfer, if he were truly surprised, he would have adjusted his second and third shots after the first one bounced directly to the nest.  But I decided to accept his statement at face value as his way of offering de-escalation.  “Quit while you’re ahead,” I told myself.

Still, I couldn’t resist asking:  “Isn’t it odd that the guy in Washington would pardon someone who slit the throat of a disabled prisoner, but comes out in favor of firing a hero like Commander Crozier?”

He didn’t respond.

“Well, enjoy your practice,” I said, and departed.

Mark’s subsequent shots were directed away from the nest.

 

*****

 

Reviewing the incident and the community’s extraordinary fascination with the nest (Mark being the exception) over the past week, I can only conclude the coronavirus is making us desperately crave a positive example of nature’s wonder.  It has certainly made me more emotionally invested in a goose’s nest than I could have thought possible.  Throughout the day a continuous stream of people come to gaze at Mother Goose.  They point and marvel at the devotion of the gander as he hovers nearby.  It may be a bogus anthropomorphic perception, but I think he’s DEFINITELY puffing his chest farther than usual with pride as he glides across the pond.

 

 

If all goes well, my brief research tells me the eggs will hatch in another three weeks or so.  The goslings will be able to walk and swim in just a day or two, which seems miraculous.  And they will doubtless be adorable!  They will be able to fly in two-three months.  Thereafter, they will become a nuisance.  For now, at least, let’s focus on the positive.