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Last fall, my wife, Katie, and I attended a harpsichord concert on campus at UNC. Two men played three-hundred-year-old music on two-hundred-year-old instruments. The sound was special. One might wonder: “Who goes to such a concert?” The answer is: “Hardly anyone.” We were among eleven audience members marooned in a sea of ninety chairs in an otherwise charming, sun-splashed hall.

Later in the week, 45,000 gathered several blocks away to watch UNC’s disgraced football team play. Though a sports fan myself, I find the disparity disheartening. I won’t belabor the sad state of our culture. That’s a cliché’. Instead, let’s focus on the harpsichord.

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In my formative years, during the 1960’s, my music resources were meager. There was a radio, and there were vinyl records. I didn’t control the radio in our household. My father turned the dial to KYW, “News Radio 1060,” and my mother sometimes changed it to WFLN, “The Classical Station.” A child of limited imagination and even less rebellion, I never considered exploring alternatives. As a person of limited means — my weekly allowance of $.25 went towards baseball cards – I didn’t buy records.

Instead, I listened to whatever happened to be on. Thanks to KYW, compared to any other pre-teen in existence, I excelled at current events, traffic, and weather. From WFLN, I formed distinct opinions about composers. I preferred orchestral pieces and piano concertos from the big guys, Bach, Beethoven, and Brahms. I was less enthused about solo pieces, opera, or dissonant classical music composed after 1900.

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Our stereo system was state-of-the-art for the early 60’s, I think. My technologically inclined brother, Barry, had built it and ingeniously hidden the speakers in an unused fireplace. For my tenth birthday, my mother combined my penchant for puns with my eighteenth-century sensibility and bought me my first record, a collection called “Go for Baroque.” It featured harpsichord pieces by J.S. Bach and Rameau, a comparatively unknown French composer. The tinkling of the harpsichord captivated me.

At the time, I “studied” piano with a teacher named Mr. Koffs, whom I called “Cootie Koffs.” Not that I deserved better, but he smacked my fingers for mistakes and generally contributed more to my misery than to my mastery. I craved the special baroque sound.

“Why can’t I play a harpsichord?” I asked my parents. “I’d even practice.”

“No one plays a harpsichord anymore,” said my mother, on the rare occasions my question elicited a response.

By the time I was eleven, piano lessons succumbed to a flood of complaints and a drought of practice. Thinking I’d be better channeling the Tijuana Brass, I requested trumpet lessons instead. After three untalented years, during which I sapped the enthusiasm of my trumpet instructor, my parents, and myself, I ended my musical career at the low end of mediocre on both instruments. Yet, I retained my eclectic tastes, more or less spanning from 17th-Century Europe to 20th-century faux-Mexico.

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As a bashful lawyer alone in the suburbs in my late twenties, I had an abundance of free time. After all, Ridgewood, New Jersey wasn’t “hopping” like a big city, and I wasn’t much of a “player” myself. Happening to hear a harpsichord on the radio one day, it occurred to me I could arrange the lessons I’d always wanted. In an unusual burst of initiative, I looked through the musical instruments section of the Yellow Pages (for younger readers, a paper telephone directory, like a fossil version of Google) and, sure enough, a man in a nearby town advertised “Harpsichords, for Sale or Lease.”

I called Ed Brewer, who turned out to be renowned in obscure circles, and learned I could rent a small instrument for $63 a month.

“Does anyone give lessons?” I asked him.

“There’s one fellow,” he said. “Do you know where Ridgewood is?”

“I live in Ridgewood,” I said, amazed.

“Well, then,” said Ed. “That’s good luck. Call Jack Rodland, the organist at West Side Church.”

I did. As the music director of the largest church in town, Jack tended to see things in spiritual terms, not luck. When I described on the phone why I’d called, he said: “I’ve been waiting for your call.”

“Did Ed Brewer tell you I’d be calling?” I asked, surprised.

“No, the Lord did,” he said.

“Hunh?” I said, or a similar sound.

Jack explained: “We have a beautiful, antique harpsichord moldering away in the basement. I want to cry whenever I see it. I recently asked the Board for funds to restore it, but was told I need at least one student. Your call is a blessing.”

To say the least, Jack and I viewed the world differently. Considering my skill level, connecting my musicality to the word “blessing” intimidated me to the point of near-paralysis. Still, how could I back out of a God-ordained activity?

We arranged to meet at the church for my first lesson in two weeks, by which time Jack was confident the Church harpsichord would be tuned. Meanwhile, Ed Brewer delivered a modest, recently constructed rental harpsichord to my home. It resembled a pine coffin more than a musical instrument. Still, it contained fifty-five brown and black keys and made the tinkling sound I loved. For two weeks, leading up to my first lesson, I spent part of each evening alternately trying to recreate the background of “Scarborough Fair,” and the introduction to “The Addams Family.”

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It may surprise some readers, but playing the harpsichord did not immediately make me a girl magnet. I commenced weekly lessons at the Church with Jack – a patient and gentle teacher—and practiced each evening diligently after work. After six months of steady play, I’d become almost respectable. I mastered several minuets by Bach and also the Rameau variations I’d listened to years before. Jack became so enthused that he asked if I’d play before a church service.

“You mean, like, in front of people?” I asked, stricken.

“Yes,” he said. “It will be a treat.”

In my mind, I thought: “It will be a catastrophe.” But Jack was so earnest!

Again, the discrepancy between our worldviews became apparent. I managed to stall Jack’s urge for my public debut for several weeks but feared I couldn’t last forever. After all, my hobby intersected with Jack’s profession and he had a Board to impress. I dedicated a number of sleepless hours to the situation, namely: “How do I get out of this?”

One morning, at work, the phone rang. My deus ex machina came in the form of a phone call from a woman who asked me out on a blind date. We hit it off immediately, and my practice time dwindled. I didn’t initially disclose to her how I’d spent the preceding six months of evenings. Insecure, I feared her reaction to finding me steeped in the 1700’s. Her first visit to my home, however, revealed my harpsichord habit. Instead of being turned off by it, it turned out my new girlfriend had been an All-State oboist in high school. We had baroque-era instruments in common! In short order, Katie and I were married, sold our respective houses, had a child, and music took a back seat. My harpsichord lessons dwindled to once a month, then ceased. Life had moved on.

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Jack Rodland was completely supportive when I explained the reason for my change in focus.

“You’ve moved to a higher calling,” he said, speaking of my new love life.

Only months after I saw him for the last time, I heard that Jack, a man no older than fifty, had died. I felt devastated. Had he been ill? It occurred to me I knew nothing of Jack’s life outside our lessons. My only small consolation was to recall his delight at having brought the harpsichord up from the basement. Also, having a student, even one of limited ability, had pleased him.

I’d deeply appreciated Jack’s gentle teaching and understanding. Due to its constant need for tuning and my lack of play, we returned my rented harpsichord and eventually acquired a piano in the unrewarded hope that our children would be interested. After we sold it several years ago, we bought an electronic keyboard for those rare, once-a-month urges that I have to play. When I do play, I always remember Jack for a moment. Though the keyboard can mimic hundreds of instruments, the harpsichord is usually my first choice.  And we still seek out those rare opportunities to hear live harpsichord music.


                                                     

     How quickly perceptions change! Just over a year ago, I still felt satisfaction at the sight of a Tesla. I hadn’t bought one myself due to longstanding discomfort with its founder’s quirkiness and unpredictability. I happily quenched my desire to drive an electric car with a Mustang Mach-E and, subsequently, a Kia EV-6. Still, seeing a Tesla on the road reassured me. It meant, I thought, that the transformation of the American automotive fleet was underway and would only gain momentum. No longer would we be beholden to filthy Exxon and the like. They (whoever that is) say the arc of history turns towards progress. A Tesla meant progress.

     Now I’m aware Tesla’s founder is not merely eccentric and unpredictable but also has neo-Nazi sympathies. Furthermore, he played a significant role in electing the psychopath who is called “president.” Finally, he reveled in destroying the careers of thousands of civil servants, most of whom work with diligence and dedication. 

     Currently, my stomach churns with disgust every time I see a Tesla. And that happens often because I live just minutes from the Research Triangle Park in North Carolina. The scientists and tech experts there are among the first to adopt new technology. Many are from other countries and seem blissfully unaware or unconcerned about the ongoing harm to the American political and scientific systems. I fear they won’t be so blissful if their Green Cards start to be revoked.

      Harvard University also represents a shift in my perception. Growing up, when I thought about prestigious schools, I favored Penn and Yale because my brother, Barry, attended both. I opted for a smaller college. Not a fan of rejection, then or now, I didn’t apply to any Ivy League schools. 

     Later, I didn’t think of Harvard much at all. It occupied a vague area of my consciousness associated with stuffiness. When I visited the campus once as an adult, it struck me as traffic-filled and unattractive, its students cocooned in their sense of superiority. (Okay, I may also have felt a pang of jealousy.) 

     About six years ago, my son, Sam, joined a program at Harvard as a post-doc. My perception changed somewhat. In the privacy of my home, I enjoyed using the “Harvard Dad” mug he gave me. Still, I felt unattached emotionally to the institution. If people asked after Sam, disdaining pretension, I’d say he was pursuing research in Boston. Only if they pressed for details would I reveal the Harvard connection.

     Recently, my thinking has shifted considerably. I bought a Harvard T-shirt and wear it proudly around the neighborhood and at the gym. The formerly unsympathetic institution, under assault as it is, is worthy of any slight boost I can provide. Paul Simon once wrote: “Seasons change with the scenery.” I paraphrase loosely to conclude, “Perceptions change with the presidency.”